So What Am I Doing Wrong?

I have a son and a nephew both are under thirty.  They both graduated high school, both have gone to college, or are currently attending college.  My son has a lovely wife and three wonderful daughters.

As a Father figure to both young men, I tried to teach them by example, how to be a good American.


  • I graduated from high school

  • I graduated from college

  • I have a master’s degree, and I am currently studying for another one

  • I served in the Army, and I defended our nation in a war

  • I have been gainfully employed

  • I pay taxes

  • I vote

  • I don’t do drugs

  • I exercise

  • I volunteer

  • I have never been in trouble with the law

  • I stand for the National Anthem   

So what am I doing wrong? 

Why is it that the young men I raised to be good American citizens are nine times more likely to be killed by police than any other demographic?

I am asking because I want to protect them, I want to keep them safe, and I want to keep them alive!

So what am I doing wrong?

My conservative friends say be polite and do as you are told by the police.  Will being polite keep my young men from being killed if they are arrested?

My First Amendment friends say get them a gun for protection.  Will having a gun keep my young men from being killed during a traffic stop?

My liberal friends say there is no need for a gun.  Will being unarmed keep my young men from getting killed if the car stalls?

I want to know because this is America – the land of the free and the home of the brave.  This nation was founded on the premise that all men are created equal.   

I want to know because we are the country so free of racial bias, that we elected an African American President. Then that President was dogged out to show the country his birth certificate.  Now the same man who gave the President such a hard time, is now running for the same office, but he refuses to show his county taxes.

I want to know, what am I doing wrong?

If you are a White friend of mine, I am certain you raised your son or nephew with the same, or higher standards than I raised my own.  Please tell me if you ever worry about them being shot by the police, if they are stopped for speeding, or if the car breaks down?

You don’t have to tell me; I think I know the answer!   

If you struggle with the question of what white privilege is, perhaps this will help.   

However, I do have an answer for you – If you struggle with the question of what white privilege is, perhaps this will help.   

White privilege is the fact that you never have to worry about your son, your nephew or even yourself being shot by the police during a traffic stop, or simply because your car broke down.

So now, we all know what my son, my nephew and I, are doing wrong.

One thought on “So What Am I Doing Wrong?”

  1. This is so very correct. Unfortunately the 600 years of perpetuating the system of privilege has become incorporated into the AMERICAN culture. Whites must be willing to dismantle this distorted history and face the TRUTH OF HISTORY.

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