To Tell The Truth

Exodus 20:16: “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.”

Why should the simple act of telling the truth be so hard?

The ninth commandment reminds us not to lie. We all know the virtues of telling the truth:

  • The truth clarifies
  • The truth verifies
  • The truth emphasizes

God Despises Liars

And while the truth can hurt it is always right to tell it. Because every time we tell a lie we move farther away from God.

Proverbs 11:5 reminds us that the “Godly are directed by honesty.”  When we give our moral compass over to God, He will direct our lives, bringing hope when there is none. He will bring healing where there was pain and truth where there were lies.

There are greater consequences to lying, than whether or not we get caught. David in Psalm 4-6 makes God’s position very clear about lying when he declares that the Lord will destroy those who tell lies. Next David pairs lies with murders and tells the world that God despises these people.

The Lying Has to Stop

Clearly, if we want to be on the right side with God the lying has to stop. But how?   Our nature and the world around us promotes deception. Look at any ad in a magazine. The amount of airbrushing that goes on deceives all of us that we can possibly look like those individuals, when those models or celebrities don’t even look like that. Commercials, movies, and television demonstrate lying as an acceptable thing to do to “save face” or “protect someone’s feelings.”

Yet, as Christians, we have to learn to overcome the temptation to lie. It can be frustrating at times. Fear is often the biggest emotion to overcome when we face the desire to lie. Yet we must always keep it in our hearts and minds that there is a way to tell the truth that is good. We cannot allow ourselves to give in to our weaknesses and lie. It takes practice, but it can happen.

How to live the 9th Commandment

Kelli Mahoney is an experienced Christian Youth worker and published writer. Blogging on the website About.Com, she outlines several practical ways we can begin living the 9th commandment in a life without lies.

  • Think first.

Sometimes we lie to give an answer to someone quickly. Instead take a deep breath and think about how to say the truth in a tactful way.

  • Keep it real.

Lies aren’t always full untruths. Sometimes we exaggerate or stretch the truth a bit. Even stretching the truth is lying, because there is an element of falseness to it. Sure, we may want to make ourselves look better, but that is selfishness and fear speaking.

  • Set things right.

We have all given into temptation from time to time and lied. We need to try to make it right with the people we have lied to and be willing to face the consequences.

  • Learn tact.

One of the reasons we lie is to protect our friends. Learning to be honest with loved ones can take time, but what it mostly takes is tact. There is a way to be honest that comes across with integrity and love. If your friend looks terrible in green, say so, but say it nicely (“Jules, you know, this would look so much better in blue,” for example).

  • Know the truth hurts sometimes.

Just because you choose to tell the truth doesn’t mean it will always be accepted with open arms. Some people may be hurt by what you have to say. It happens. In the end, though, most people will appreciate the honesty rather than the lies.

Anyone who hates you for being truthful probably has some issue with what’s going on in the first place and doesn’t want the truth at the moment. Yet the fear of someone not wanting to hear the truth should never stop us from telling it. Sometimes God uses us to highlight wrongs in other people’s lives.

Final Thoughts: God will help us handle the truth

There is no problem too big for God. We can stop the lies, the deceptions, and the sin that accompany these actions by simply asking God for help. Start by praying this prayer with me:

“Father, I am a liar and I want to stop. However, I don’t know how and I need your help. I surrender my life to you to change me, and make me into the truthful person that you intended me to be. Thank you for your mercy. Thank you for your grace and Thank you for your love.”

In Jesus name I pray Amen

Help to Stop Lying

The temptation to lie is a struggle that many of God’s people including me suffer from. However, we don’t have to go it alone, I welcome the opportunity to pray with you and to keep each other accountable. Feel free to send me a note at marben@marbenbland.com . This is my personal email viewed only by me. I welcome our dialogue.

Also See: Have You Been Lied To?

 

©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a business strategist professional speaker and writer.   Specializing in assisting business with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace. Find more post at www.marbenbland.com

 

Is This Your Life?

Then the Lord God made man from the dust of the ground. And He breathed into his nose the breath of life. Man became a living being (Genesis 2:7)

This is your life.

You are living.

It is the only life you’ve got…or is it?

Whose Life is it?

Scripture tells us in 1 Corinthians, chapter 6, that our lives do not belong to us. …and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price. That price, was Jesus’s death on the cross.

Is this your only life?

Jesus promises us: “I am the resurrection and the life. Anyone who believes in me will live… even after dying. Everyone who lives in me and believes in me will never ever die. John 11:25

 

So what should we do with this life?

We understand that our lives are not our own. We know that Jesus made an amazing sacrifice. So, we now ask “what should we do with it?”  The answer is simple. We are to be “born again”.

What does it mean to be “Born Again”?

“I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.” John 3:3

Jesus made this statement to a man named Nicodemus, ruler of the Jews. Nicodemus had heard Jesus preaching about a new kind of kingdom. He came to Jesus and asked Him the meaning of his teachings about life. Jesus told him that the way to enter this new kingdom was to be born again.

Nicodemus asked “How can a man be born again? Can he enter into his mother’s womb again?” Jesus explained to Nicodemus that the new birth, was not physical; but spiritual. It was the beginning of a new life, in a new kingdom.

When Jesus spoke to Nicodemus, He used illustrations to help Nicodemus understand. Jesus used a newborn baby, entering life to explain a person, beginning a new life with God.

Born again. A new birth. Saved. These terms all mean the same thing. Jesus used all three to teach Nicodemus. It is important to understand that God made a way. We can be with Him and have new life!

How Can I Be Born Again?

To be born again is remarkably simple it can be accomplished in three simple steps:

Step One: REPENT

Repent therefore, and turn again, that your sins may be blotted out, 1 John 1:9

Repent means to turn around; to go in a new direction.

We are not free agents to do as we please; disregarding what our Master wants from us. When we are born again we “die” to sin. Again, this is not a physical death; but a spiritual rebirth. Our selfishness, unholy thoughts and actions are put to death. If we are to be like Christ, then this kind of death and rebirth must be done.

 

Step Two: BELIEVE

Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” John 20:29

Believe? We must believe that not only did Jesus shed His blood and die for us; but, He rose again from the dead and is alive today.

Step Three: CONFESS

Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9

It is not enough for us to repent. It is not enough for us to believe. In order to be born again we must publicly confess that Jesus died for our sins and that Jesus is our Savior. We now live for Him.

A prayer for life

This modest prayer will unleash all the power of God’s influence on your life. I invite you to pray it with me:

“God, I am a sinner in need of a Savior. I REPENT, and I ask you to forgive me of all my sin. “I BELIEVE that Jesus Christ is your Son; that He shed His blood so I might be forgiven. He rose again from the dead, and He is coming back again. “I CONFESS Him now as my Savior. I will live for you as you show me how. Amen.”

Final Thought: This Will Be Your Life

By saying this prayer you have confirmed that Jesus is Lord and He is in control of your life.   It is my prayer for you that this will be your life.

 

©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a business strategist professional speaker and writer.  Specializing in assisting business with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace.

Death

The certainty of life is that death will occur. “Man that is born of a of woman is of few days and full of trouble.” Job 14: (NKJV)

Recently, I was speaking with a person who writes obituaries typically, she has about a thousand words to sum up a lifetime of accomplishments, schooling and family. With the average U.S. life expediency of 78.2 years how can one thousand words accurately describe the 28,470 days of our lives.

‘Well done, my good and faithful servant” Matthew 25:21 (NIV) are the words that we as Christians are striving to have as our epitaph. However, because we all have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory we will never be described as a good and faithful servant who has done well; unless we turn our lives over to God.

Our relationship with God is a lifelong adventure in learning His ways, keeping His commandants, and loving His children. 1st Peter 5:6-7 provides a guidepost for this relationship as we learn to trust Him, love Him and submit to His timeless will: “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

  • God cares for you in the high times of our lives.
  • God cares for you in the most difficult times of our lives.
  • And God cares for you when this life is over and rewards us for our faithfulness with everlasting life.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

The certainty of life is that death will occur however, God has made certain that death is not the end. All we have to we have to do is to believe.

 

©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a business strategist, professional speaker and writer. Specializing in assisting businesses with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace.

Wisdom

“Happy is the person who finds wisdom, the one who gains understanding. For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold. Wisdom is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. She offers you long life in her right hand, and riches and honor in her left. She will guide you down delightful paths; all her ways are satisfying. Wisdom is a tree of life to those who embrace her; happy are those who hold her tightly.” Proverbs 3:13-18

In Hebrew the word wisdom means to separate between good and bad, right and wrong.

Situations that call for Godly Wisdom

Frequently we are confronted with situations that call for wisdom. We must make the split second decision between good and bad, right and wrong. Often this choice is clear. However, many times it is not.

  • The law enforcement officer who must make a decision when to fire his weapon.
  • The parent who must decide on how far to go when spanking his child.
  • The spouse who must decide how long to stay with a man that she loves but abuses her.

 

Do we have Godly Wisdom?

These situations directly from the headlines of today calls for wisdom.   And while in hindsight we can easily and clearly say what course of action we would take. How can we ensure that the Godly wisdom to separate between good and bad, right and wrong, left and right, up and down is in our lives when the time comes for us?

  • To give compassion to a person who is trying my last nerve.
  • To give money again to a person who has squandered my money before.
  • To give trust to a person who has proven unworthy of it.

These are not happy circumstances but “Happy is the person who finds wisdom, the one who gains understanding.

How do we obtain Godly Wisdom?

Therefore the question is how do we find godly wisdom?

In the 3rd Chapter of 1st Kings we find Two harlots had been arguing over an infant—both claiming custody of the boy.

The women bring their dispute to young King Solomon, and this is how he comes to a solution:

“Bring me a sword,” the young king commanded. “Divide the child in two, and give half to the one, and half to the other,” the king said.

Then one of women cried out: “O my lord, give her the living child. Do not kill him!”

The other woman coldly replied, “Divide it.”

With that, the king returned the child to his rightful mother. The woman who was willing to give her son away to another instead of having him killed.

The Godly Wisdom of King Solomon

This oft-repeated account is used to exemplify the famous wisdom of King Solomon.

After the incident involving the two women, First Kings 3:28 tells us “…all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had judged; and they feared the king: for they saw that the wisdom of God was in him, to do judgment”

Even today, Solomon’s wisdom is renowned the world over. Much of it is summed up in the book of Proverbs. Many verses there are finely polished nuggets of truth: “Iron sharpens iron”—“Go to the ant, you sluggard”—“A soft answer turns away wrath”—“A prudent man foresees the evil, and hides himself”—“Train up a child in the way he should go”—“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”

God makes available to all of us wisdom, to do His will. And to live lives that will be a testament to the Lord’s presence in our lives.

So how do we acquire the “wisdom of Solomon”? It is by learning and applying Solomon’s individual proverbs? Or is by studying and emulating the life of Solomon? Or does wisdom comes to us as we get older?

Four focus for Wisdom

Solomon was wise and we can be wise also by focusing on these four things:

  1. Know that true wisdom comes from God.

“And God gave Solomon wisdom and understanding exceeding much, and largeness of heart” I Kings 4:29.

Solomon was wise only because God gave him wisdom. It was God’s wisdom, God’s understanding, and God’s heart that Solomon exercised on behalf of God’s people. We can be wise when we seek wisdom in God not in man.

2. We find and gain wisdom when we fear the Lord and obey His commandments.

Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true wisdom. All who obey his commandments will grow in wisdom. Psalm 111:10

God’s commands are so full of wisdom that if we just follow them our lives will be filled wisdom because we are living as God wanted us to do.

 3. Wisdom is not presence without God’s guidance.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

The Lord wants us to be happy and to do His will. And while it may appear that some are prospering without Him. True happiness and wellness are only possible with the Lord’s guidance.

  1. We must ask God for wisdom.

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. James 1: 5

It is that simple, if we need wisdom all we have to do is ask, in prayer.

Final Thoughts: Separation between good and bad

In Hebrew the word wisdom means to separate between good and bad, right and wrong.   As we seek God’s wisdom Psalms 143:10 gives us a platform for reflection and prayer: “Teach me to do Your will, For You are my God; Let Your good Spirit lead me on level ground.”

Seek wisdom and you will find The Lord.

 ©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a professional speaker, writer and business strategist. Specializing in assisting business with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace. Find more post at www.marbenbland.com

 

 

 

Gossip

The word gossip translated into Hebrew is defined as “one who reveals secrets; one who goes about as a talebearer or scandal-monger.”

Paul in Romans 1:29-32 reveals the sinful nature and lawlessness of mankind; stating how God poured out His wrath on those who rejected His laws.

Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness and sin, of greed and hate, envy, murder, fighting, lying, bitterness, and gossip.

…..They were fully aware of God’s death penalty for these crimes; yet, they went right ahead and did them anyway and encouraged others to do them, too.

Despite God’s warnings, Christians are plagued by gossip either by hearing it, speaking it, or being a victim of it.

Gossip is dangerous to Christians. While in worship, we are honest and tender with each other. During these vulnerable moments, we share the raw details of our lives. Gossipers, will use the tender information that was shared and reveal it to others. These intimate items should not be shared. It’s no one’s business!

The reputation of Christians, especially those who are in leadership is ripe for the gossip mill.   Sadly, I have experienced the grinding assaults firsthand; when unbelievable things were said about my character. Yet they, found eager ears to rest upon and spread.

However, Jesus does not want us to feel sorry for ourselves when we are the center of gossip.   As he said in Luke 9:23, “Anyone who wants to follow me must put aside his own desires and conveniences and carry his cross with him every day and keep close to me!

Therefore, while God despises gossip; He also has great disdain for those of us who cannot put aside our “own desires and conveniences”. For as Jesus demands…. If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine.

So take up your cross and do not gossip. Don’t speak it or hear it. Refrain from all participation of this weak minded act. Yes! Only a weak minded person can be persuaded to victimize another Christian with unproven chatter. Remember, when you become a victim of gossip (and one day you most likely will be); know that God has your back.

All Christians, should find peace in knowing, it is only God’s reputation that truly counts and it is stellar. It is never about us. The only judgment that counts is from The Lord and if we are living right and keeping His commands all the Gossip in the world that is spread about us does not matter.

Because the only words that matter is: “Well Done My Good and Faithful Servant.”  

 

©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a business strategist, professional speaker, and thought leader. Specializing in assisting business with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace.

You Are Important to God

As humans, we are in a constant search for importance. The desire to feel important is primal. The feelings of importance can help keep us stay on the straight and narrow to do the ordinary. The feelings of importance can give us the power and confidence to do the extraordinary.   In all of life’s enterprises, we need to feel important.

What makes you feel important?                                                                           

Research has shown that there are many things that make us feel important. Here is a list of some of the things that bring importance to our lives.

  • Health
  • Work (your position, your profession and the money made as a result)
  • Food
  • Faith
  • Money (and the things it can buy)
  • Family (including children)
  • Sexual Gratification
  • Education
  • Sleep

You are important to God

While it may be hard to fathom, we are important to our all-powerful, all knowing, all important God. But…why? Why would God, who is everything, believe that an inadequate, insignificant, and incorrigible individual like me is important?

Well, the prophet Isaiah tell us: “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the LORD. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.”   Isaiah 55:8

The Bible gives us several examples why God believe we are important. Here are a few more scriptures for you to hold close to your heart if you doubt God’s thoughts about your importance.

You Are Important To God:

  1. So, He created you in His image.

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis 1:27

You are God’s highest creation. Unlike any of the other things He made, God made you to look like Him.

2. Therefore, He cares for you and knows all about you.

 “Aren’t two sparrows sold for only a penny? But your Father knows when any one of them falls to the ground. Even the hairs on your head are counted. 31 So don’t be afraid! You are worth much more than many sparrows.” Matthew 10:29-31Contemporary English Version (CEV)

God thinks that we are so important that He providentially cares for our needs. He knows us better than we know ourselves.

3. He gave his only son to die for your sins.

 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die. John 3:16 Contemporary English Version (CEV)

As Romans 3:23 tells us we are all lost and in need of salvation, God sent His son to Earth to save us because He know “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

Let’s get our importance from God

In this world it is sometimes easy for us to think that no one cares about us. That we are not important, and that our lives do not matter. However, always remember, we are important to God:

Because He made us in his own image,

  • Because He knows all about us
  • Because He sent Jesus to die for our sins

Our importance in life does not come from material or social status our importance in this life and the hereafter comes from God. So get to know God, become His friend, give Him your life and watch your importance grow….. Why?. Because we are important to God.

 

©Copyright 2014 Marben Bland │

Marben Bland is a professional speaker, writer and business strategist. Specializing in assisting business with the acquisition of human and financial capital along with the strategies required to succeed in the marketplace.

We Come Crying to God

Let’s face it the news this summer has been bad.  Almost every day, at home and abroad the reports have been a constant drum beat of:

War,

Disease,

Suicide

And Shootings.

David in Psalm 34:17 reminds us: “When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles.”

In times like these we need a Savior

In times like these we need an Anchor

Be very sure

Be very sure

That your anchor holds and grips the solid rock

That rock is Jesus

Yes, He is the one

The word of God tells us in John 15:7

“If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.”

  Father, today your righteous servants come to you with a cry for help. 

 We come crying for peace from War.

 From the ethnic violence in South Sudan to the War in Ukraine; innocent children are dying. The old are being neglected and homes have been destroyed.  We ask for your wisdom to stop the fighting and to bring the combatants to your peace.   

We come crying for healing from Disease.

 Your children in Guinea, Liberia, Sierra Leone, and Nigeria are contracting, suffering and dying from Ebola.   We ask you to cure the sick and protect the medical teams that are doing your will.  

 We come crying for comfort in the aftermath of Suicide. 

 Father, we are frightened, surprised, and concerned; because we have learned that suicide is the 10th leading causes of death in this nation.  While we are in shock of the numerous suicides, Lord we ask that you give us a genial heart; so we don’t cause any additional harm to each other.  Send a release Father!  So those that are burdened find relief and no longer desire to take the very life that you have given them. 

We come crying to stop the Shooting.

Lord we see the cycle of shootings spreading like wildfire in our country; and while we are grieved by the violence we know that it will not end until we turn our prayers to you and ask for:

  •  Better Education    
  •  Responsible Parenting
  • Sufficient Paying Jobs

 We pray for courage to become missionaries in these plagued cities.

We need your boldness:

  • To spread your word,
  • To provide your help
  • And to your love to your people.

So they will know that there’s still hope and their lives can still be changed.

Let’s face it the news this summer has been bad and Father, that is why we have come crying, Crying to you.